Ever since I read the controversy around the new Cheerios commercial (a cute, curly-haired mixed-race toddler talking to her white mother, while her black dad is on the couch) I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Why do people show hater towards this? Why is there racists comments towards this family model?

It took me longer to react that in fact I’m one of those “family models” too.

Our mixed race it’s not at a very dramatic grade, but it’s there and people see it.

“Are you the nanny?”, “Is she adopted”? These two to be the most common questions asked these days when I am alone with her.

No, I’m not the nanny. And yes, she is mine.

Why does society feel the need to know if I am her nanny?
I mean, do they intent to hire me if I say I’m her nanny? I seriously should try this next time someone asks me that. I would love to see their faces.

But yet again, why would this matter? Unless I am mistreating or neglecting this child in which society could only possibly think it’s because I am not her mother (we know that also happens even by own family), I don’t see why this piece of information would change their judgement towards my caring to this child.

Am I her biological mother?
Last time I checked, yes. I carried her for 9 exact months in my belly. I got a couple tiny little stretch-marks on my very low abdomen and it is still a little saggy, so yes, she is mine.

But, I could see why some people could get curios on this topic though. Adoption and in-vitro methods to become a parent are being more open and common practices now than before, people have lots of questions around someone’s experiences.

This post might have been catalyzed by a TV commercial, but it’s seems to be a clear reflection of a broader issue among society around non-of-your-business and it-doesn’t-matter subjects. At the end, the only relationship that truly matters in a family is love, respect and support, no matter where in the world they come from.